The Four Forces

Excerpt from Paolo Coelho's Blog:

Father Alan Jones says that building our soul requires Four Invisible Forces, namely love, death, power and time. It is necessary to love because we are loved by God. It is necessary to be conscious of death in order to understand life better. One has to fight in order to grow – but without falling into the trap of the power that we obtain in doing so, because we know that such power is worth nothing. And lastly, it is necessary to accept that our soul – although eternal – is at this moment caught in the web of time, with all its opportunities and limitations.

First Force: Love
Rabbi Iaakov’s wife was always looking for an excuse to argue with her husband. Iaakov never answered her provocations.Until one night when, during a dinner with some friends, the rabbi had a ferocious argument with his wife to the surprise of all at table.“What happened?” they asked. “Why did you break your habit of never answering?”“Because I realized that what bothered my wife most was the fact that I remained silent. Acting in this way, I remained far from her emotions. My reaction was an act of love, and I managed to make her understand that I heard her words.”

Second Force: Death
As soon as he died, Juan found himself in a very beautiful place, surrounded by all the comfort and beauty that he had dreamed of.A figure dressed in white came up to him and said, “You are entitled to anything you want.”Enchanted, Juan did everything he had dreamed of during life. After many years of pleasure, he sought out the figure in white. He said that he had experienced everything and that now he needed a little work to make him feel useful.“That’s the only thing I cannot get for you,” said the figure in white.“But I’ll spend eternity dying of boredom! I’d much rather be in hell!”“And where do you think you are?”

Third Force: Power
“I’ve spent a good part of the day thinking about things that I should not think about, desiring things that I should not desire, planning to do things that I should not do.”The master pointed to a plant and asked the disciple if he knew what it was.“It’s a belladonna. It can kill you if you eat the leaves. But it can’t kill you just by looking at it. Likewise, negative desires can cause no harm – if you don’t let yourself be seduced by them.”

Fourth Force: Time

A carpenter and his apprentices were traveling through the province of Qi in search of building materials. They saw a giant tree; five men holding hands could not encompass its girth, and its crown reached almost to the clouds.“Let’s not waste our time with this tree,” said the master carpenter. “It would take us forever to cut it down. If we wanted to make a ship out of that heavy trunk, the ship would sink. If we tried to use it to build a roof, the walls would have to be specially reinforced.”The group continued on its way. One of the apprentices remarked, “Such a big tree and no use to anyone!”“That’s where you’re wrong,” said the master carpenter. “The tree was true to its own destiny. If it had been like all the others, we would have cut it down. But because it had the courage to be different, it will remain alive and strong for a long time.”

Little girl and her father

Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,‘Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don’t fall into the river.’ The little girl said, ‘No, Dad. You hold my hand.’‘What’s the difference?’ Asked the puzzled father.‘There’s a big difference,’ replied the little girl. ‘If I hold your hand and something happens to me,chances are that I may let your hand go.But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens,you will never let my hand go.’

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in itsbond.
So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting themto hold yours…This message is too short……but carries a lot of Feelings.

I just cut the tie.

Just dumped a friend for 10 or 11 years on Facebook. Honestly, I am not even sad or mad about it. The whole situation has helped me realize how important it is to evaluate friendships. If you have the slightest feeling that your friendship with someone is toxic you should cut ties with that person. The whole dumping started with a rude message. I did not even bother responding to that comment. It was pointless to respond to something like that. Honestly, what kind of friend says that to you? I guess it’s the kind of friend that tries to put you down all the time. The kind of friend that says “Look at your hair, do you think that is healthy? Who would do that? NOT A FRIEND. Not someone who questions your beliefs based on speculation. Not someone who constantly contradicts herself when judging others. If your “friend” says stuff to try and put you down, you need to evaluate your relationship. HYPOCRITES piss me off more than anything in the world. I do not understand how a person can constantly talk about someone else for being unmarried with kids yet they are in an often worse situation. Well, I’ll be having kids soon out of marriage but I’m glad to shout it out unto your face that I have them only with ONE man.

I am rising above and moving on with my life. :)

A Day with her BFF

Well, I'll tell you why we named that cute li'l red dressed blonde doll named Aga. / Ah gUh/ not / AA gah/. This was Ninang Shane's X-mas gift for her last year. When Ora first saw this, I asked her what pretty name could she give for her gift she said "aga". And their history being best of friends begins! :).. Aga slept with her day and night, early morning she carries Aga in her toy stroller and they both had good journey along the village. They're best friends, but Ora once left Aga at the Ecoland Terminal when we went for a travel and I did a hard job looking for Aga. (see how they meant as BFFs??? haha!) :)

How to Start All over Again?

REPOST:

Life is a journey of ups and downs, like a cycle which takes a turn to give you both ends. There will be happiness or sadness, success or failures, love or heartaches, good or bad.

Oftentimes, you’ll be encountering situations where things are going smoothly your way then suddenly, in a blink of an eye, things crashed down to your face then turn your world up-side-down. In that moment you will feel distraught that you may find life so hard to live on.

But after the pain and darkness, there comes the joy and light. Now, you’ll start to ask yourself, “how to start all over again?”

Starting over isn’t hard, if you know these four (4) key principles:

1) Acceptance
Accept that life isn’t perfect, and it will never be perfect, so expect it to be hard. The best way to achieve happiness and success in life is through acceptance.
Instead of mourning and complaining on how difficult life is, shift your focus to how and why you have to act and make it different.
Remember that it’s not what happens to you, but how you handle what happens to you, that’s going to make the difference.

2) Learning
The good thing about setbacks or failure, are the lessons we learn if we did not experience them otherwise.
Once you’ve accepted the imperfection of your life and the situation that happened, take time to recognize the lessons you’ve learned from such experience. For this will be valuable wisdom you’ll be carrying over as you go along in your life.

3) Planning
Dream again. After failing, most people lose their appetite to still dream for fear of failing to achieve them.
The best story we can remember whenever we feel like giving up and walk away from our dreams is about the company named “7 UP”.
7-Up Success Story showed how a company have failed six (6) times and achieved success on the seventh (7) time. To learn more about 7-Up Success Story CLICK HERE or copy-paste this url: http://lifetofullest.com/7-up-success-story/

4) Moving on
Always keep a positive and grateful attitude.
Do you know the cartoon movie, “Meet the Robinsons”? It has a famous line that can extremely influence our attitude and it says “Keep moving forward”.

When you respond to life, that’s positive; when you react to life, that’s negative. The former clearly defines the meaning of “Keep moving forward”.

Whenever situations come to our lives, especially hard times, you always have two choices, a positive or negative. That’s to respond or react.

Reacting leads you nowhere but feeling restless and frustrated while responding gives you a perspective to stand up and keep on moving to life.

Most of life is learning and growing, falling and getting back up, accepting and going on. If you want to go far, you have to start the engine and drive

Right now, I'm hurting and so is Him. But this is not something I want Ora to read when time she's matured enough to understand. 'will just keep this between me and him. I\ll just pray to God that he'll mend whatever hurt we have right now and that he'll heal these pains that has caused us.

Ailing Ora

You were ailing last week. You had discharge several soft stools for about 5 days and this made mama and papa horribly troubled. On your fourth night, minutes after we put you to bed while you were having your milk we heard your cries so piercing. Though it’s dim inside our room mama could see you vomited much of the food and milk you had. Yes, this has always been your habit if you go to bed. You like it and you behave much if lights were off and you’ll fall to sleep soundly. But things we’re different that night. You want me to cuddle you up and you don’t want anybody to do it except for mama. Well you two were too heavy then (coz mama was as well carrying her little boy that time in her tummy), but I love you and I care for you. Even how heavy you maybe mama will still carry you when you’re in pain. You fell asleep and you had your laboratory tests early morning before taking you to your pedia. The staffs and the resident medical technologist asked for your new stool sample to assure the viability of the test. You made them entertained when you danced in front of them. While waiting for your next stool, we took you to the nearest shopping mall to buy you shoes since papa noticed you’re red shoes is by now too small for your feet. You look great with your new pair of white sandal which I got from a kids section (not for toddlers at all! We’ll if you haven’t known you have those unusually wide feet for a 1.7 year old tod. ). Then you saw nearly a 5 year old boy crying at the drugstore inside the mall and you mimic his cryings. One couple saw you and they look enjoyed watching you bullying that boy. It’s mostly 3 pm when you had your second poo. You waited for me outside the AVON office when I got a call from your papa (Mama’s having business transaction inside). We took you upstairs for a wash and you were anxious to get inside the map tub of that restroom. Test was finished but then the clinic was closed when we arrived. ‘Twas too late so we went home still worried about you. The next day, you were happily okay. You ate lots of fresh bananas and you want to eat it without mama helping you.

We love you so much Ora! And we wish you good health always! J